I am 31 years old, married for eight years and a mom of a three-year-old child. I have lost my sexual drive because of my husband. Whenever my husband is free, he masturbates. When he wants to have sex, we do it once a week. But he still prefers to masturbate while watching porn. I hate that habit so much that I can’t enjoy intercourse with him any more. When I talk to him about this, he keeps mum. Please help.

It’s a pity that your husband has become a porn addict. It would be tough for him to shake off this habit. Why not have a heart-to-heart with him about your feelings? If need be, watch porn with him and then slowly wean him off the habit.

When I masturbate, blood trickles along with semen. The first few drops are white but then they turn to red before I ejaculate completely. This happens every time I masturbate. I’m suffering from this for the past two months. I’m now afraid to have sex with my wife as I fear I have some disease. Please tell me if this is serious and what is the treatment?

Visit a pathology lab. Give them your semen sample. Take the result of the test to a urologist or an andrologist.

I am a 34-year-old married man with a two-year-old daughter. Four years back, before my marriage, I had unprotected sex twice with a female colleague. Post that, I never had unprotected sex and I never faced any problems. However, since three months, I have been down with malaria, chicken pox, cough, cold and now simplex herpes. Is this connected? Please help.

Your previous episode has nothing to do with the present. Follow the doctor’s advice.

I am a 28-year-old man and my girlfriend is 18. I tried having sex with my girlfriend last week but I could not insert my penis in her vagina because I was unable to break the hymen. Please suggest a solution.

You could first try breaking her hymen by inserting your finger.

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