I’m scared of having sex with my boyfriend. But one day I decided to do it when I thought I was ready for it. It felt good when we started off. But he couldn’t penetrate after several trials. I feel the reason is that my vagina is too small. Please help me. What could the problem be? I am really worried about the size of my vagina. Will I ever be able to have sex?

Your problem is that both of you are ignorant about the art of sex. First of all, did he use a
condom during the act? Did he assume the right position? Also, did you really want to do it? If not, then that’s why your vaginal muscles contracted. The vaginal opening may look small but it can expand to allow a baby’s head to emerge. Meanwhile, please Google ‘foreplay in sex’, ‘positions’ and ‘sexual intercourse’.

I am a 30-year-old girl in a relationship with a 25-year-old guy. We have never had sex till now, but we’ve indulged in oral sex. Recently, I bought Velvet condoms for females. They claim to be equally effective against pregnancy and STDs. They are made of nitrile. I had a few questions. a) Is nitrile safe for the skin/body? b) How does a woman use these condoms? I’m clueless. c) Will these condoms prevent pregnancy? Or should we stick to regular condoms like Kamasutra? I am insistent that my boyfriend use a condom and he also agrees because he loves me and doesn’t want me to suffer the side-effects of an I-pill.

Please read the instructions written on the box of condoms carefully and apply them. The female condom prevents pregnancy as well as infections. It has been researched thoroughly and the material used is safe.

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