I am a 35-year-old married man. I need to have sex with my wife at least twice a day or I can’t sleep. If not, then I have to masturbate four times. But my wife cannot satisfy me. She refuses to have sex when I demand it. I feel as if I am raping her, because she does not react when we have sex. What does this say about our relationship? My penis is five inches long when erect. Is she normal or do I have a problem?

Yes, you have a problem…one that makes you think only about yourself. Have you ever tried to understand your wife’s feelings? If you cannot sleep, ask the doctor for a pill. Also, why do you have to masturbate four times before going to bed? This needs to be checked. See a sexologist.

I am a 30-year-old woman and I am in love. This is my first relationship with a girl. At first, the sex was pretty awesome, but now it seems repetitive. It’s either penetrative using fingers or scissoring. We have considered using dildos, but my girlfriend is uncomfortable with the idea of ‘something that’s not a part of me’ inside her. We have tried oral sex, but it only irks us. Please help us get a little creative in bed.

Why tax my fantasies? Please find them yourself. Reading the Kamasutra or watching some porn may help. Remember, intercourse is not the only joy of sex. Even a bath together can get you excited.

I am a 24-year-old man. For the past one week, I am experiencing a weird sensation while passing urine. It feels similar to an orgasm. Also, my semen has turned muddy brown. Why?

It is likely you have an infection. Please see a doctor.

Is anal sex harmful?

The mucous membrane lining the rectum is thin and can be damaged by the friction with the penis. Without a condom, there is risk of transmitting diseases. Always use a condom and sufficient lubrication. Do it only if your partner is game.

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