I am a 23-year-old guy. I have been masturbating once before going to bed every night, for the past 10 years. Will this cause any problem after I get married?

Why are you using masturbation like a sleeping pill? Try to restrict it to relieve your sexual excitement then perhaps the next ten years of your life would be even better.

I have been trying to have anal sex with my wife for the last six months but I’m not being able to penetrate. I tried applying Lox 2% and KY jelly but of no help. My wife enjoys it if I finger her from behind but when I try to insert my penis, she is in pain. Please recommend any cream which will tranquillise her anus. How long should I wait after applying lox 2%?

After applying LOX, wait for 15 minutes. But why not stick to vaginal sex? It won’t pass any infection or cause any laceration to her.

I am 30 years old and my wife is 29. We are planning to start a family soon. I want to know if it is okay to apply lubic gel. Will it affect the quality of my sperms? Could you suggest any other gel available in the market?

You can use your saliva which costs you nothing

I am 21 years old. I don’t know the difference between anal and oral sex. Please enlighten.

If you use the computer, you could easily visit Wikipedia or Google for information. Anal sex is when the partner inserts his penis in the back passage (rectum) and oral sex is when the man or the woman uses his/her mouth to pleasure the partner.

I am 28 years old. My wife-to-be is a virgin and I have been celibate for a year. We plan to have sex soon. How should we go about it?

I suggest you read more about sex online. In particular, learn about how to use a condom; how to pleasure each other; and how to split the hymen with the finger rather than the penis. Why not take premarital counselling and start your sex life with skill?

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